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nockergeekWell, I got Sunday's IRC problem resolved. Gave myself a couple of hours to cool down, got back online, and chatted it out with the person in question. Came to an understanding, truce was called, and it was all good.
And just when you thought it was safe to get back in the channel...
My other peeve with IRC comes up. Maybe it's just the channels I frequent (or used to frequent), I don't know. It just seems like that, if you're not part of the current social clique or "in" crowd, nobody gives a damn if you exist or not. You can jump into channel, and no one notices. Try to contribute to the conversation, and not be heard. Hell, you can make a blatant grab for attention, and it goes totally unnoticed by everyone else in the channel.
This is not the first time I've been pissed off at the IRC environment for this reason, but I keep coming back because I do have friends on there. Friends who I never see otherwise. Of course, if they ignore me, one has to wonder what level of friendship they really are.
I know, I'm sounding utterly bitter, and I am, and it's not the right thing to be. Still, though, it irritates me down to the very core of my being. I got tired of being ignored through 12 years of grade school, but I didn't want to have to make an ass of myself to get attention, either. Apparently, I can't have it both ways. Either it's a mad grab for attention, or none at all, and I don't understand why. I don't understand why I can't just talk in channel like everyone else and get noticed like everyone else. I don't understand the hidden social dynamics of the situation. These things just go right over my head, and it frustrates me and irritates me. Dan tries to tell me that it's just people being too busy to talk, but I have to wonder - if they're online in a chat channel, why are they too busy to chat?
Like I said, I don't understand. Being social never was my strong suit anyway.
And just when you thought it was safe to get back in the channel...
My other peeve with IRC comes up. Maybe it's just the channels I frequent (or used to frequent), I don't know. It just seems like that, if you're not part of the current social clique or "in" crowd, nobody gives a damn if you exist or not. You can jump into channel, and no one notices. Try to contribute to the conversation, and not be heard. Hell, you can make a blatant grab for attention, and it goes totally unnoticed by everyone else in the channel.
This is not the first time I've been pissed off at the IRC environment for this reason, but I keep coming back because I do have friends on there. Friends who I never see otherwise. Of course, if they ignore me, one has to wonder what level of friendship they really are.
I know, I'm sounding utterly bitter, and I am, and it's not the right thing to be. Still, though, it irritates me down to the very core of my being. I got tired of being ignored through 12 years of grade school, but I didn't want to have to make an ass of myself to get attention, either. Apparently, I can't have it both ways. Either it's a mad grab for attention, or none at all, and I don't understand why. I don't understand why I can't just talk in channel like everyone else and get noticed like everyone else. I don't understand the hidden social dynamics of the situation. These things just go right over my head, and it frustrates me and irritates me. Dan tries to tell me that it's just people being too busy to talk, but I have to wonder - if they're online in a chat channel, why are they too busy to chat?
Like I said, I don't understand. Being social never was my strong suit anyway.
