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nockergeek) wrote2002-12-13 11:41 am
nockergeek) wrote2002-12-13 11:41 am
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Feeling healthier today; some ibuprofen and rest helped break my fever, and extra sleep seems to have patched me back to normal.
And now, for a non-sequitur:
Sex.
Yes, you see, I'm a very sexual being. I've got a normal sex drive for a twenty-something male. I find the female form to be a thing of beauty, both aesthetically and sexually. I'm also a Christian, or at least a Christian-in-training. I'd also like to consider myself at least somewhat intelligent, which means I refuse to check my brain in at the door. So, what have I been doing? I've been searching the 'Net to find out the Christian stance on sex, erotica, and the like.
What I've found so far is that nobody seems to agree.
Well, they agree on one thing - you should only have sex with someone to whom you're married. However, they can't agree on what constitutes a marriage. Some say it has to be a religious ceremony performed in a church, while others suggest that the act of having sex is what bonds two people in marriage.
Beyond that, though, there's little consensus. Some say masturbation is a terrible sin, while others suggest it's a healthy form of release when done with moderation. Some say it's only for procreation, some say it should be enjoyed for the pleasure it brings. Some avoid talking about sexual acts like the plague, others get very down-and-earthy about what couples are free to do. Some even talk about how experiences with BDSM have brought them closer to putting all their faith in God.
So, what's a sex-positive, healthy, male Christian supposed to think? Not really sure. I do know this, though (and parents, this may shock you, so you read ahead at your own peril):
Although Z was not the first person I got intimate with -- I did quite a bit with my first 2 girlfriends, although never quite going all the way -- she was the first person I had full-on intercourse with. Within 2 months of that, we got engaged. Between that time and the time we got married, we both had a couple of dalliances with friends (in each case, with the other's knowledge and permission first - we hid nothing form each other). From my experiences there, I learned that while sex was "okay" with other people, it was great with Z. It was like going out for a burger when I could have a Hops steak at home -- sure, it satisfied the hunger momentarily, but it wasn't fulfilling and deeply pleasing. The emotional bond of being with my soulmate just wasn't there. We knew we were right for each other, even if we weren't "officially" married yet.
And now, for a non-sequitur:
Sex.
Yes, you see, I'm a very sexual being. I've got a normal sex drive for a twenty-something male. I find the female form to be a thing of beauty, both aesthetically and sexually. I'm also a Christian, or at least a Christian-in-training. I'd also like to consider myself at least somewhat intelligent, which means I refuse to check my brain in at the door. So, what have I been doing? I've been searching the 'Net to find out the Christian stance on sex, erotica, and the like.
What I've found so far is that nobody seems to agree.
Well, they agree on one thing - you should only have sex with someone to whom you're married. However, they can't agree on what constitutes a marriage. Some say it has to be a religious ceremony performed in a church, while others suggest that the act of having sex is what bonds two people in marriage.
Beyond that, though, there's little consensus. Some say masturbation is a terrible sin, while others suggest it's a healthy form of release when done with moderation. Some say it's only for procreation, some say it should be enjoyed for the pleasure it brings. Some avoid talking about sexual acts like the plague, others get very down-and-earthy about what couples are free to do. Some even talk about how experiences with BDSM have brought them closer to putting all their faith in God.
So, what's a sex-positive, healthy, male Christian supposed to think? Not really sure. I do know this, though (and parents, this may shock you, so you read ahead at your own peril):
Although Z was not the first person I got intimate with -- I did quite a bit with my first 2 girlfriends, although never quite going all the way -- she was the first person I had full-on intercourse with. Within 2 months of that, we got engaged. Between that time and the time we got married, we both had a couple of dalliances with friends (in each case, with the other's knowledge and permission first - we hid nothing form each other). From my experiences there, I learned that while sex was "okay" with other people, it was great with Z. It was like going out for a burger when I could have a Hops steak at home -- sure, it satisfied the hunger momentarily, but it wasn't fulfilling and deeply pleasing. The emotional bond of being with my soulmate just wasn't there. We knew we were right for each other, even if we weren't "officially" married yet.