Unneeded?
It's a weird feeling, realizing that you're not as necessary to your friends as you used to be.
Take Maggie, for example. Maggie has a car now. Maggie's in a relationship with a guy across the state. Maggie's getting ready to move across the state (again) to be with said guy, and to live in a urban environment. Gone are the days when Mags would get rides to the grocery store, or to anything that was too out-of-the-way for the bus. She's got freedom, and soon she'll be gone, and we'll be unable to watch over her like the big brother and sister we sometimes try to be. It's not that she doesn't visit us, and it's not that we don't get along great with her. It's just that a role we used to play is getting put aside for the foreseeable future.
And take Dan. He's working on getting a car. He's got a girlfriend now. He's got a job that's really out of the way for us to visit him at. We hardly see him anymore, despite the fact that his GF lives in the same apartment complex as us. We just never know when he's coming or going. Gone are the days when I'd take him to work, or when we'd bring him food that Z had made for him. Gone are the times when I'd encourage him about relationships, that it would happen eventually. It did, and now our roles in his life have changed. Again, it's not from any sort of strife between him and us. It's just change that slowly separates us.
The funny thing is, I'm sure other people feel the same way about us. Dennis, for example. We used to go over to his dorm room, and later his apartment, for entertainment and anime. Then we got our own place, and our own VCR and our own anime and our own Playstation. Then he got a PS2, and we went over to enjoy that with him... and then we got one. I wonder if he feels less needed sometimes because of that. I could see how he might.
Change sucks, doesn't it?
Take Maggie, for example. Maggie has a car now. Maggie's in a relationship with a guy across the state. Maggie's getting ready to move across the state (again) to be with said guy, and to live in a urban environment. Gone are the days when Mags would get rides to the grocery store, or to anything that was too out-of-the-way for the bus. She's got freedom, and soon she'll be gone, and we'll be unable to watch over her like the big brother and sister we sometimes try to be. It's not that she doesn't visit us, and it's not that we don't get along great with her. It's just that a role we used to play is getting put aside for the foreseeable future.
And take Dan. He's working on getting a car. He's got a girlfriend now. He's got a job that's really out of the way for us to visit him at. We hardly see him anymore, despite the fact that his GF lives in the same apartment complex as us. We just never know when he's coming or going. Gone are the days when I'd take him to work, or when we'd bring him food that Z had made for him. Gone are the times when I'd encourage him about relationships, that it would happen eventually. It did, and now our roles in his life have changed. Again, it's not from any sort of strife between him and us. It's just change that slowly separates us.
The funny thing is, I'm sure other people feel the same way about us. Dennis, for example. We used to go over to his dorm room, and later his apartment, for entertainment and anime. Then we got our own place, and our own VCR and our own anime and our own Playstation. Then he got a PS2, and we went over to enjoy that with him... and then we got one. I wonder if he feels less needed sometimes because of that. I could see how he might.
Change sucks, doesn't it?
